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Three key things to keep in mind ✨
Hello, Philosophical Parent.
Quick post today.
If you’re having “one of those day” where you feel like you’re failing as a parent (or at best, doubting your ability), here are three things to keep in mind:
No one really knows what they’re doing. Even so-called experts have their off days but they take it on the chin, then re-calibrate and try again. As the oft-used expression goes: There’s no guidebook for parenting - we’re learning from our mistakes and then moving forward.
If you feel guilty, worried, or regretful, it means you care. Now, this isn’t meant as a “get out of jail free card” — If you’ve made a mistake, own up to it and apologize to your kid or family. But, the process of worry, guilt or regret implies making a concerted effort to parent and how your behaviour and actions affect your child.
Ask your child for their opinion & feedback. In the trenches of parenting, we sometimes forget that it’s a two-way street. Even toddlers can offer their preference or opinion. And, by asking your toddler, child, or teenager about their wishes, you’ve opened up a conversation. It doesn’t mean you have to do what they want all of the time but it does convey that you care.
Trust that these quick insights offer solace and a chance to step back and take a breath. Any other insights to offer fellow parents? Feel free to comment.
Until next time Philosophical Parent — stay real.
Lisa